Boundaries for Empaths & Intuitives

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Aug 30, 2022
3 min read

Setting boundaries with people you love can make you feel LONELY af. Here’s why..

When you become self-aware, honour yourself and realize your worth, you stop tolerating bullshit. The people that got used to being able to walk all over you start asking why you changed, and might criticize you. Because they can’t control you anymore…

If you’ve had shitty friends or family that didn’t respect you and took advantage of your empathic, giving nature… they’ll be confused af when you start taking your energy back.

Because they got USED TO being able to treat you how they wanted. They got USED to being able to control you or sap your energy etc.

And here’s the kicker (there’s always a kicker hehe):

You are just as much ‘to blame.’

You are just as guilty as them.

Why?

BECAUSE YOU LET THEM. that is your lesson to understand, that will rise you up and out of a victim mentality.

HEAR THIS tho. That DOESNOT mean that you deserved it, that you dont have a right to be pissed, or cut them out of your life or do whatever it takes to heal yourself.

It DOES mean that you get to see the part you played in it, and be kind and gentle with yourself when you realize that you let yourself be treated shitty. Dont add shame or guilt to it. BE KIND to yourself, nurture yourself and realize that you made a mistake. And move along and OUT of that dynamic by learning what boundaries are.

‘Boundaries’ is such a buzz word these days.

If you’re not aware of the many ways we can express and encompass our boundaries, check out my other article HERE.

As an empath or intuitive or highly sensitive person, or whatever you wanna call it.. You will NEED to learn boundaries. It will be one of thee most important tools in your LIFE!

For many people, when you first express your boundaries, it’s scary and lonely AF. Why?

Because people will be triggered that youre finally respecting yourself and not tolerating having your boundaries crossed. And also because you might lose some ‘friends’ and ‘family’.

The silver lining?

No, the GOLD lining?

The best is yet to come, baby. Trust. I’ve been through many ‘rounds’ of losing people.

And I don’t even wanna call it losing. Because when you start to honour yourself, that’s a BIG FUCKING WIN. It gives me chills just thinking about it.

You are literally shifting timelines. You are quantum leaping. You are elevating your vibe. You are shifting your paradigm.

Whatever way you wanna put it, you are changing your life.

The shitty part?

Sometimes you may have to go it alone.

Sometimes you may retreat while you collect your energy.

Then what comes next… Oh man, what comes next is pure fucking magic.

You start meeting your soul group.

The ones that you don’t need to justify yourself to. That you don’t need to ‘validate’ yourself to.

Your soul group feels the energetic essence from all the space you’ve created. And they find you.

It may take days, months, years. But they will find you. So when they show up, and they WILL, you better be fucking ready to be brave and talk to them. Slide into their dms hehe. Chat them up in that aisle at chapters. Make that connection.

I’ve experience drama in my relationships, and I’ve experienced the peace that came after YEARS of loneliness. And I’d go through all that loneliness again, to have what I have now.

Loneliness > People that don’t honour you or make you feel good.

Trust.

Its the cycle. I see it in the people I talk to that go through a similar chapter in their life. It’s part of an incredible monumental SHIFT.

Ultimately though, it means you are waking the fuck up, in the biggest way.

The space that you’re creating, and the emotional intelligence and self-respect that you are building, will make the rest of your life SO much easier and full of peace.

You might stumble and fall back into shitty relationship dynamics along the way. I def have, and it’s something I still am vigilant about. But, keep going. Learn and move on. Give faith.

Understand that your life path is supposed to be more bliss than chaos.

The chaos is a choice, but that’s a story for another time.

Anyways, baby, I have so much love and compassion for you. It transcends across time and space. Our souls know eachother from lifetimes ago, and if that freaks you out, just know you wouldn’t have even read this blog, let alone until the end, if your soul didn’t resonate with mine.

Welcome to the family. You are safe and loved here <3